10 Self-Care Tips Of Our Favorite Game of Thrones Characters
Updated: Jan 28
GOT 5 minutes? Bend the ear and check out these epic self-care tips. *No Season 8 spoilers, I promise!*
With the world going crazy about the final season (gasp, can you believe it’s finally here!), I couldn’t not write about Game of Thrones.
The HBO show is based off of the world famous books written by the story-telling-genius that is George R. R. Martin. The series is now one of the most talked about television programs on the planet, and for good reason!
The suspense, the drama, the cast, the incredible locations, the magic, the surprises, the everything… there’s love, pain, lessons + metaphors that move everyone watching.
The series is simply art - and believe it or not, we can find self-care hidden in it everywhere. Let’s look at the characters we’ve grown to love so much, into the final series, and see what they share about self-care:
1. Daenerys Targaryen
Know when to Seek Council
Our Dani [Daenerys Stormborn of the House Targaryen, First of Her Name, the Unburnt, Queen of the Andals and the First Men, Khaleesi of the…] has come a long way; from a naïve girl to the mother of dragons, she’s slayed her way to the final season, to take what is hers.
She is fierce, strong + knows how to make the tough decisions, but she is not afraid to ask for help. In fact, our Khaleesi is constantly seeking the opinions of her hand Tyrion, those on her council, her loyal friends, heck she even asks her Dragons.
Khaleesi wouldn’t be where she is without constantly seeking council. She is the perfect example of how important it is to talk to people, that you don’t have to do everything alone. It’s okay to ask for help or guidance.
Seeking help doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a stronger: in mind, person + relationships. It can make things a lot clearer + life easier. Remember that people want to help you, and there are people here to support you. From family + friends to counsellors + therapists. Help + advice is there, if you only seek it.
2. Jon Snow
Speak your Truth
You snow this man is inherently good: honorable to a fault, a man of his word, always keeps his promises, + strives to do the right thing. Jon does not speak lightly, when he swears an oath, he means every word of it. Even if he knows nothing, Jon Snow knows: Loyalty, Honesty + Integrity are traits that your best-self has.
This means not settling for less than what you know you deserve: in relationships with yourself + others. Being honest about how you feel. Asking for what you want + need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. And lastly, living in a way that is in harmony with your personal values, hopefully for you, that’s doesn’t mean fighting the army of the dead.
3. Tyrion Lannister
Own your Weaknesses
'Let me give you some counsel, bastard. Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you' —Tyrion Lannister
Meet the wee legend that Tyrion Lannister. Tyrion has been persecuted for the way he looks since his birth. Constantly being mocked because of his size, he has been disowned by his family + called uneless. But through this, Tyrion built the character, full of wit, intelligence + charm that stole everyone’s hearts.
Despite constantly being ridiculed, he always remembered his self worth. He has never let his appearance define him; your appearance does not define you. Tyrion believes in himself, he shows us that: when it feels like the world is against you, you have the power to turn around and lead the world.
Remember your worth + always take the risks that your yearns for, against all odds.
4. Samwell Tarly
Never stop Learning
The perfect example that knowledge is power, and you can use that power to enrich your life. Truth be told, by Jon Snow, our lovely Sam hasn’t had the best time in game of thrones: unwanted by his father + abused the Night’s Watch. The loveable Sam isn’t the fastest, or the strongest, and he’s certainly not the best fighter - but he sure is clever.
It truly is brain over bronze for Sam, the man never stops learning. He constantly reads books + studies ancient texts to help understand the world on a deeper level, how to help others + help himself.
A true self-care hero, Sam demonstrates that we are never done learning, and should never seek to be. Having a curious + open mind can deeply enrich your life. What will you discover?
5. Jamie Lannister
Jamie series 1 vs. Jamie series 8 couldn’t be more different. *Flash back to your 18 year old self, relate!?* This Lannister always... learns from his mistakes. It’s true, we’ve been on a right ol’ journey with the handsome Lion. From King-Slayer to People-Protector, he has grown through his mistakes + made it on to the not-so-bad-after-all list.
He proves that you are not your past: mistakes do not make us who we are, but they can teach us more about ourselves + who we want to be. Mistakes make your best self clearer, because they either send us in that direction or show us the right way, albeit in a roundabout fashion.
Sometimes, the most important life lessons come from the bad decisions we make. Learning from our mistakes lowers the risk of repeating them. And through this, you can develop the wisdom + sense to make good decisions + choices for you.
Jamie, much like his brother, teaches us such a very important lesson: Grow through what you Go Through. You are not your mistakes; your mistakes are building blocks to help you reach the best you.
Use your Intuition
Curiosity killed… not Bran Stark, not even being pushed from a tower window killed Bran Stark. The curious Stark never allowed the loss of his legs to stop him from achieving greatness. In fact, in the absence of his legs, he discovered incredible new gifts, and a third eye.
Bran, and the 3-Eyed-Raven, shares a very important message: use your intuition. You know the feeling, it’s a sort of ‘knowing’ or at the very least a gentle persuasion that something is off, or feels right, or needs our attention. It’s subtle, which is why it’s easily missed.
That’s not to say you need to touch a talking tree to find your intuition. You already have it, it’s just about listening; and like most things that speak with a quiet voice, if we listen, the potential is life-changing.
7. Arya Stark
Make a List
No, not that kind of list… the young Ayra Stark has transformed a lot over the seasons. This girl was always more interested in swords than dresses, and for such a firecracker, she’s grown to be rather organised. I mean, normally when someone has a lot of people to kill they go full blown [The] Mad [King], but not our girl with no name - nope - she makes lists, and she repeats that list to herself every night. Stay with me…
Killing people (unless called Joffrey) is not the idea here, it’s killing off your to-dos one by one, in a slow, well-formulated manner. The satisfaction of crossing off that to-do from your list is, well, delicious. But like Arya, know that you cannot kill the full list in one go - be realistic, and enjoy the process.
A good tip is to list 3 most important tasks of the day, these can be simple ones too, and focus on them first. Once done, any other killings are just a bonus! Likewise, you can create a separate list of affirmations, and repeat them to yourself, just like Arya, everyday.
8. Sansa Stark
‘I'm a slow learner, it's true. But I learn’ - Sansa Stark
The most patience in wolf in the pack. When her brother Jon, King of the North, left to meet the Mother (or Aunty) of Dragons, Sansa babysat the North for what seemed like forever. While the men were throwing tantrums + little Finger was playing tricks, she stayed calm, collected, and patient.
Sansa shows us how essential patience is to daily life; and key to a happier life! Having patience means being able to wait calmly in the face of frustration or adversity. So, anywhere there is frustration or adversity, apparently everywhere in Westeros, you have been given an opportunity to practice patience.
At home in family politics, at work with colleagues, at the grocery store, etc. Patience can make the difference between annoyance + equanimity; between worry and tranquility.
Deep breaths, be calm, be still - be patient.
9. Brienne of Tarth
Not your typical Westerosi woman. Brienne ain’t feminine, petite or attractive - according to Westeros-societal-standards *rolls eyes* - After her father’s failed attempts at marrying her off, she became a member of the King’s Guard. #SmashtheWestriarchy
Her character is all about breaking pre-conceived ideas. Despite frequently getting ridiculed for being a woman, she proved she is a better fighter than most men (just ask the Hound). Brienne does not let society force her into being the kind of woman that they find acceptable - and you shouldn’t either.
Brienne tells us that people should not be shoved + molded into categories just because it’s what everyone else expects. Briennes message of self-care, is to simply care for yourself, by being yourself. There’s only one of you, be that person.
10. Cersei Lannister
Love with all your Heart
Alright, so the name Cersi Lanniester doesn't exactly scream love. It does scream 100’s of people from the Sept. Cersei is a complex character; she can be (at the best of times) cold, conniving + smug. A splash of sadistic, mixed with madness, manipulative + a bucket of fearless. But she when she loves, holy Lannister, does she love...
It’s true, villainous as she may be, you cannot deny the unwavering love she has for herself, her children, and other members of her family… She even continued to love + fight for the unlovable (an understatement) son of hers Joffrey. *Hissss*
The loyalty + the love she feels for her family is uncanning, as is the love she has for herself. That’s right, Cersi is the perfect example of self-love. Because she loves + values herself so much, she simply will not settle for less than what she believes she deserves, no matter what stands in her way (even if that is a Khaleesi, 2 living dragons, 1 not living dragon, White Walkers, + the army of the dead).
Caring for others + yourself naturally enhances happiness levels. All of us have an innate desire to be loved and nurtured, it’s human nature! Given the importance of the need to be loved, it isn’t surprising many people believe their happiness is whether we feel loved + cared for.
Cersi’s advice to you, is to love with all your heart. Even if you’ve been hurt before, if you feel the love, never suppress it - you will only limit what you can give + receive. Learn how to Love Yourself.
So, now you GOT the self-care knowledge, what tips will you sprinkle into your life? What was your favourite? And, most importantly, Who will take the Throne? Bring on Season 8!
Wishing you love + moonlight for the week ahead, and [The North] Remember[s], to always, always,
- Handle with Care